URGENT UPDATE: As the holiday season approaches, many are grappling with the awkwardness of gift exchanges and food offerings at gatherings. Just in time for Christmas, social etiquette expert Eric Thomas provides critical advice on how to navigate these sensitive situations without hurting feelings.
In a recent column, Thomas responds to readers experiencing the stress of unwanted gifts and food sensitivities. With December festivities around the corner, it’s essential to address these issues promptly.
For one reader, the challenge lies in suggesting to an in-law’s relative that they forego exchanging gifts this year. This couple is at a stage where they prefer less clutter and more meaningful gestures. Thomas recommends approaching the conversation collaboratively: “Instead of the gift exchange this year, we’d like to bake you something. Is that something you’d be interested in?” This suggestion not only opens a dialogue but also allows the relative to express their preferences.
Another reader, who underwent a pancreas transplant in 2018 and has celiac disease, faces a different dilemma. Holiday gatherings often come with the well-intentioned gesture of homemade food, but safety concerns make it difficult to accept. Thomas advises being upfront yet gracious: “It’s so thoughtful of you to make me something. But I can’t eat anything outside of the home because there are too many variables.” This clear communication helps others understand the reader’s limitations without offense.
Additionally, a reader who has dealt with unwanted gifts for years shares a creative solution: instead of asking for items they do not need, they request practical gifts such as sheets and towels, which they donate to homeless shelters. This thoughtful approach not only alleviates the burden of unwanted gifts but also contributes to a good cause.
Thomas emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries while maintaining kindness. As holiday gatherings draw near, his advice is timely for those who want to celebrate without the stress of traditional gift exchanges.
For those attending parties, it may also be beneficial to inform hosts of dietary restrictions in advance. “For the ease of your planning, I wanted to remind you that I don’t eat outside of the home for medical reasons,” a reader suggests as a proactive approach when RSVPing.
As these discussions unfold, it’s crucial to remember that the intention behind gifts and gestures is often rooted in love and appreciation. Thomas’s guidance offers a way to honor those sentiments while prioritizing personal needs.
Keep an eye on how these strategies unfold this holiday season, as many seek to redefine traditions in ways that are both meaningful and considerate.
For more insights and questions, readers can reach out to Eric Thomas directly via email or follow his updates on social media.
Stay tuned for more urgent updates and etiquette tips as the holiday season progresses.
